My Healing Manifesto

I love manifestos. My favorite ones include the Holstee Manifesto and Sark's Being a Succulent Wild Woman. I like to think of manifestos as guide posts for the courageous journey of coming home to ourselves. After years of holding space for women, I have come to value the following guide posts.

Karina Maria's Healing Manifesto:

Mindfulness is medicine. This moment. This breath. This tight tummy.They are all portals to greater intimacy with yourself and the world around you.  BE HERE NOW. This very moment is all you have, and it is full of loving potential. 

  • Your body speaks. Your body is infinitely wise. By slowing down and learning to listen to the body's messages, you can discover a radically new way of connecting to your life and intuitive knowings.

  • Self-attachment is the way to a joy-ful you. Most of us learned to judge and abandon ourselves at an early age. Those days are over. The extent to which you can connect to and accept yourself (yes, even those parts that are really difficult to love) is the extent to which you can connect to your life and others.

  • Your inner work benefits every-body. Doing your work is not self-indulgent nor "selfish". On the contrary, the way to healing the world around you is through healing yourself first. When you gift yourself this gift, every-body benefits from your presence. In Marianne Williamson's words, "as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same".

  • There is nothing wrong with you. I believe in the basic goodness you possess and the innate brilliance that has allowed you to go through everything you have to be here today. The parts of you that cause you suffering want to feel supported and be seen. Transforming shameful perceptions and patterns into love is a cornerstone of this work. 

  • Your emotions are longing to be felt. Emotions are energy that wants to move. As big and scary as your emotions may seem, by turning toward them in a supported and mindful way and giving them loving attention, you can free yourself from a life full of constriction, avoidance and pain. 

  • Vulnerability pays off.  Vulnerability. That excruciating sensation of feeling raw and naked as you are seen in your uncertainty and emotional exposure. Often, you want to avoid it at all costs and yet research shows that when you allow yourself to be vulnerable your capacity to belong, love and empathize significantly increase. It is through the discomfort of being cracked open that you can re-awaken to a new way of being where authenticity and freedom lead the way. In Dr. Brene Brown’s words, “Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, accountability, and authenticity.” 

On Loving Your Way Back to Wholeness

In a culture that is invested in making us feel constantly unlovable, it’s no surprise that many of us walk around doubting our worth. A low self esteem is usually the product of negative messages that we received at a very young age and that we’ve carried with us since, like a heavy sack of rocks. Whether it was family, school or society in general, the little girl in you convinced herself that she was flawed, never enough and somehow broken. 

The way many of us learned to cope with these painful messages was by hiding our imperfections and trying to prove the world that we were “perfect”, like hungry ghosts running around earning medals and trophies and trying bloody hard to look like magazine cover models. 

We learned to talk to ourselves with disdain and harshness and learned to reject and mistrust our bodies. The “never enough” bar constantly moving further and further up, leading us to conclude that clearly, we can’t get ir right. 

Radically, unapologetically.... YOU

Radically, unapologetically.... YOU

As I write these words my heart aches, my jaw is clenched and my heart is racing. I’m pissed off and oh so sad. Patriarchy (which I like to define as a society in which certain men make the rules and women go along without their power nor their voice being honored) really did us a number here. It convinced us that our inadequacies are real and that we are forever doomed, stuck in this hamster wheel of criticism and never enough (sadly, the media makes millions from this very real wound).

And then I remember to take a deep breathe. I place my hand on my perfectly imperfect belly and soften. HIStory does not have to be HER story, your story..our story. We can learn to rewrite it together and step into our fabulousness together. After all, as on of my dear mentors would say, we all haver an inner pearl that deserves to shine bright.

So this act of learning to love yourself and being unapologetically YOU is radical and goes against 3,000 plus years of HIStory. The word radical comes from the Latin word roots. This work asks that we go back and reconnect with our roots to reclaim a new and simultaneously very old way of being in our bodies and this sweet and fierce Mumma Earth that is our home.

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It requires deep commitment and a willingness to embrace discomfort. A willingness to sit in the fire of vulnerability and difficult emotions as we get acquainted and learn to LOVE all of those parts of yourself that you’ve been invested in getting rid of. Yes, I’m talking about the needy, the jealous, the moody, the rude, the scared, the doubtful, the flappy, the “too much”, the “not enough”, the saboteur, the raging and the highly emotional ones of you. And guess what…the more you learn to love all of these parts…the more you will set yourself FREE. Free to be your wildest and most authentic self, free to speak your truth and say your NO’s and sing your YES’s. Your freedom is contagious and will inspire others to dive into their own radical journey of reclaiming their perfectly imperfect wholeness. 

And you know what? These imperfections that you spend enormous amounts of energy (and money) criticizing and rejecting are what actually what makes you super duper lovable. I promise you so. It’s time to make peace with all of who you are and set yourself FREE..It’s time to come home to your wholeness sister. Let’s be radical…together :). 

I'd love to hear your thoughts on this. 

In love,

Karina Maria

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